I am very grateful to those clients that have taken the time to provide me with feedback on what I have done for them through Human Potential Coaching.
My Experience of Human Potential Coaching
Caroline Hopkinson
When I first spoke to Mary about Human Potential Coaching I was immediately interested the way in which it was explained, and the overall potential outcome for any individual partaking was something I truly felt I needed.
I had my first session with Mary on 18th October 2008, I was unsure of how the sessions would be, but I was immediately put at ease by Mary’s calm manner and overall guidance on what we would be doing.
Mary was very able to immediately make me feel safe and secure in what I wanted to say, and I knew that the confidentiality of what ever I was saying would be maintained by Mary.
During the first session I explained to Mary that I did have an immediate concern that was building up within me I was very comfortable in telling Mary this and she listened with genuine interest to my concerns.
Mary asked if I would like to close my eyes and note any area of my body where I felt a build up of energy/tension, I immediately noted that this was in my shoulders. Mary gave calm guidance to simply say the following ‘Soften & Flow’ to the area of energy and see what happened, at all times I continued to feel completely at ease with what Mary was saying. After a short time I felt the built up energy leave my shoulders, travel down my arms, into my hands and then out of my fingers (my first thought of this was WOW!!!, how good does that feel!!!). Mary encouraged me to enjoy that feeling and then we began to talk. Mary asked me a number of questions and without even thinking the answers simply came out.
Following this process Mary again asked me to enjoy the feeling of being completely at ease, content, happy and fulfilled.
Myself and Mary discussed various techniques to use in facing my concerns, I wrote these down, and went away feeling very prepared for what ever lay ahead.
That same weekend I was immediately challenged by my initial concerns I had spoken of to Mary and felt very confident in managing them in a completely different manner to how I had previously done so. This really was a massive achievement- I now had my own personal ‘tool kit’ for dealing with various issues that may arise, all I had to do now was strengthen my ‘tool kit’. #
I have since seen Mary on three separate occasions and every incident I face I feel I am getting stronger in managing ‘potentially difficult situations’. I know that from having Human Potential Coaching I am becoming a better person. I don’t feel as if I have to become loud, to be heard and if I do feel that a situation is becoming ‘too much’, I am able to immediately reach for my ‘tool kit’.
I know that I have had to date four sessions with Mary but I truly believe that it has made such a difference to every area of my life.
At home I am definitely a calmer mum, with my children and as a result their behaviour is calmer. I talk more with my partner rather than bottle things up, as I was using so much energy in worrying about silly little things, so in affect this has made us stronger as a couple.
At work I am not as loud as a Manager, before I had to shout to be heard now I am simply able to use the various techniques that Mary has given me to manage any situation that may arise throughout the working day. This in all has made me a better Manager, more understanding and a better communicator.
I truly believe that Human Potential Coaching is such a life changing experience, it is enabling me to live my life as me, not who I thought I should be or who everyone else wanted me to be!.
Mary is a truly amazing person, who makes you feel so at ease with the way in which she conducts herself, she has a very calming manner and always listens with great interest and genuine concern. Mary gives great advice and explains all techniques with such detail.
Thank you ever so much Mary, you truly have changed my life for the better!!!
Kind Regards
Caroline Hopkinson
Testimonial on Human Potential Coaching with Mary Milne
Les Freear
This course has given me the potential to solve some of my longstanding issues. These include not being able to do things unless it was at the last minute and thus under pressure from myself of others.
The relaxation period at the start allowed me to let go of the thoughts and feelings from the outside world. Mary and I would then talk about my activities over the previous week to see what had happened and how I felt about the changes. It was very interesting to look not only at changes within me but also on the effects of my change on other people and their relationship with me. I noticed others responded differently, even though they knew nothing of my taking this course.
Through Mary’s help, I could look inside myself and see where problems and blockages were holding me back. Through her quiet, calm, confident and non-judgemental support I felt safe and comfortable. This allowed me to be able to explore the blockages and listen to my body and its responses with some surprising answers to her questions. When the time came to ask the parts of me which had been left behind to come back and be part of me again I had a great feeling of peace and happiness. Mary did not judge my responses but took them in and used them to mould her questions to lead me further into the blockage. She helped in allowing the blocked energy to be released through whichever way seemed appropriate to me and my body.
As the session came to a close it was interesting to listen to my heart message. Mary’s idea of noting down this message helped to keep it fresh in my thoughts as the week went by.
The treatment has currently lasted over six weeks and I can say that I have definitely felt an improvement in several areas and I would happily recommend the course and Mary’s approach to others.
Les Freear
Testimonial for Human Potential Coaching with Mary Milne
Leanne Phipps
On my first session of life coaching I can honestly say that I felt like a completely different person to how I feel now. I remember talking to Mary and feeling so much guilt and emotion inside of me that tears just seemed to flow from my eyes. My world seemed very dark and muddled, and I couldn't see a way out of it. In a nutshell, I felt like the most tangled and knotted ball of string and I could not envisage anything untangling me.
From this very first session Mary took me through some thoughts and ideas that made me instantly realise that there could be a light out there to guide me through my tangles. I became aware of my whole body which helped me to put into perspective the control that my head and thoughts were having on me. After the first session I came away, at the very least, realising that I was in control of my thoughts and I could choose whether to listen to them or not. I realised that thoughts are exactly what they are named - thoughts. It was Mary's visualisation of thoughts being like clouds that helped me to see them, welcome them and then let them float on by. Exactly the same with welcoming my thoughts as if guests at the door. A very empowering and settling experience and one that I constantly remember daily.
Throughout the following sessions I was able to dive deep into my inner being. Through small tasks, discussions and techniques I became profoundly aware that I could choose who I gave my energy to. I could be in control of situations (people) that for so long had been in control of me. The main example of this being my ex partner. The key exercise that I will remember forever is the one where Mary explained about certain situations being like me having hold of a cushion. The other person having the other end. If the other person tugged at one corner, at the present time, I was giving them my energy by tugging back, which in turn only made the other person tug harder. Mary actually invited me to hold a cushion and act out this scenario.
On the question "what do you have to do to stop the tugging happening?" I immediately let go of the cushion!!! What a simple, yet hugely effective thing to learn. I realised immediately how I could use this in my own life and although it is not always easy it is possible to do it without causing offence. Anyway if it does cause offence that isn't my concern as the other person can choose to accept it however they wish :-) !!!!!! This technique has now become infamous in my circle and network of friends. Even to the extent that after talking my experience through with my friends, they have applied it to their own lives!!!
From here on in I began to feel very strong in myself as I found situations in my personal life settling. The cushion scenario gave me great inner power and also helped me to be very clear on what I thought and wanted. No meant no.
I believe the next very influencial moment that life coaching had on me was when Mary took me deep inside myself to find the answers to what my body was needing and wanting. To me this technique was like peeling off all the layers of skin to an onion, trying to get to the inner core. It was a most wonderful and enlightening experience for many reasons. The first being that I could hear the answers to questions from my deepest part of me. I wasn't thinking with my head but had the most amazing awareness of my whole body which is what was giving me the answers. Secondly I became very aware that my inner self could always find the answers to what I saw as problems in my life. I realise that if I just took the time and space to search within myself my body would lead into finding different pathways to the peace and happiness that I sought.
I enjoyed repeating this technique over a couple of sessions and used it to great effect when preparing for an interview. Usually I would have been incredibly anxious, taking any kind of herbal remedy to calm my nerves and constantly seeking reassurance from who ever would give me their time. However, after applying this technique I had learned with Mary I found myself to be calm and quiet on the morning of the interview day. Nervous yes, but in control of my mind and body. The greatest moment that I was doing this was when my Mum asked me if I was ok. When I replied yes and why, she returned by saying that I seemed too calm and she was waiting for me to show some signs of panic. This would have been my usual routine but not since I had practised this new technique!
After the sessions that I have been to with mary I have learned so much that I could write a whole book. Realising the importance of allowing myself to have space for my thoughts and inner being to be heard, writing/drawing/using music to express what my body was saying, I could go on. Overall, I no longer feel like a tangled ball of string!!! I try to live in the moment and deal with situations as they arise. I now feel like I am in control of my future and although it is impossible not to think, and sometimes worry, about future events I have learned to accept them purely as thoughts and allow them to pass by. I can only deal with situations as they occur!!!!
I am miles away from the person that I was when I first started life coaching. My world is no longer dark and mixed. I feel light, happy and excited about my life. I feel strong knowing that if I come across a problem I have some tools and techniques that I can use in my life to help me find that pathway through them. Mary's sessions have been a gift. A life gift that I can use forever. I am extremely grateful for experiencing these sessions and I'm looking forward to experiencing and learning more.
Leanne Phipps